A Moms Struggle: I Can No Longer Sleep

Since having my daughter I seem to lack the ability to sleep.

I remember sleep.  I loved sleep.  I couldn’t get enough.  I recall once sleeping for 24 hours straight. Granted alcohol was involved with that one, but still.  I spent most of my teens and early 20’s sleeping in until 1 or 2 in the afternoon on weekends.  After staying up all night, what else would you do.  And now, as a mom I’ve lost it.  I can no longer sleep, at least not much, and not enough.

I slept well throughout my pregnancy, until near the end.  You know that point.  You get so big that you’re just uncomfortable no matter what you do.  The position doesn’t matter, because once you do find the perfect position, you’re too hot, too cold or you remember you forgot to do something that requires you to get up any way.

And then when my daughter was born, FORGET IT.  Sleep was a distant memory.  I think in the hospital I slept a total of 10 hours in 4 days. Coming home, my sister was a savior.  She stayed with us our first nights home and took our daughter through the night so that we could get some (much needed) rest. I still only slept about 6 hours a night.

Now, 8 months later, I only get broken sleep.  Example:  Tuesday I tried to go to sleep early, around 9:30 PM.  Passed out was more like it.  Then there I was, wide awake at 3 AM!  I just lay there in bed losing my mind because I want to sleep.  I do!  It wasn’t until 5:30 AM that I finally passed out.  I suppose at least I got another two hours of sleep. (Yay…)

Last night, I’m asleep by 10 PM, only to wake up at 5 AM.  So that’s something.  I only woke up once, briefly.

My point is, where did my sleep go?  My daughter is sleeping through the night, and when I say sleeping through, she’s been sleeping 10-12 hours a night, almost every night since she was 3 months old.  She sleeps more than me at one time!

I wonder if anyone else has had this problem.  Does it go away?  Goodness I hope so!

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  1. Not saying this is the case with you, but poor sleep (especially waking in the early morning hours) can be associated with depression, especially if you have racing thoughts that prevent you from falling back asleep. That aside, I started out cosleeping with my son, then we moved him to a crib at about 7 months and he didn’t sleep through the night until 10 months. When he started sleeping through the night more consistently, it took me about three weeks to be able to enter deep sleep. For the first 10 months of his life I didn’t get 5 straight hours of sleep, so my body was used to being hyper vigilant and waking frequently. It definitely needed time to retrain.

    • Well I don’t think I’m depressed, but I appreciate the thought!

      Maybe I need to retrain as well. Thanks so much for sharing!