Screw Mommy Wars, We’ve Got Better Things To Do

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How are we so at odds? How did the Mommy Wars begin? And why the fuck are they still going? Seriously. Aren't we all after the same goal here?

I just don’t get it.  How are we so at odds?  How did the Mommy Wars begin?  And why the fuck are they still going?

Seriously.

Aren’t we all after the same goal here?  We all just want to raise semi-adjusted children who lead fulfilling lives and grow up to become happy members of society.  Here’s my list of things that moms need to stop giving a shit about.

So put the kid to bed or send them to soccer/ballet/whatever practice.  Grab a cup of coffee or wine and settle in.

  1. What other moms buy for their babies.
  2. What other moms don’t buy for their babies.
  3. How other moms feed their babies. (Boob, bottle; who cares?)
  4. What other moms feed their babies.
  5. Being supermom.
  6. Being a bad mom.
  7. Not being good enough.
  8. Mom guilt.
  9. Taking a nap.
  10. How long a baby takes a bottle.
  11. How long a baby takes a pacifier.
  12. If a toddler throws a tantrum in public.
  13. How other moms handle their toddler having a tantrum in public.
  14. If other moms feed their baby/child only organic.
  15. If other moms don’t feed their baby/child only organic.
  16. If they make their own baby food.
  17. If they buy baby food.
  18. If their child is wearing brand name items.
  19. If their child isn’t wearing brand name items.
  20. If other moms exercise, or don’t.
  21. Taking time for us.  We NEED it.  And we fucking deserve it.

I realize that this list could go on and on and on.  But the truth is, we need to stop fighting!

Who cares what other moms think of you?  They shouldn’t care what you think of them.  Because here is the thing.

As moms, we are all just trying to make it.  

We are all doing what we think is best EVERY SINGLE DAY.  

I encourage anyone reading this to add to this list in the comments.  And I’m seriously tempted to start an Anti Mommy Wars group on Facebook or something.  Let’s support the shit out of each other because we are all awesome and we have all made sacrifices for our kids.

If you think the group is a good idea, fill out this 2 minute form or shoot me an email.  If I get enough people interested, it’s totally happening.  🙂 

Aren’t we all after the same goal here? We all just want to raise semi-adjusted children who lead fulfilling lives and grow up to become happy members of society.

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I’m Catrina. I’m a mom of 2 under 2 and founder of Chocolate & Chaos. On top of being a mom and blogger, I'm a Digital Content Manager for a publisher. In my free time, I enjoy spending time with her family and friends, photography, wine and good coffee. So basically, I'm just trying to make it through the day just like you. :) It's a bumpy ride sometimes, but I wouldn't have it any other way.

9 COMMENTS

  1. Great Article!! I am excited to see this. I am finishing a book called “Supermoms, Celebrating All Of Who We Are.” It takes you on the journey of motherhood/sisterhood we all share as mothers. Why we should take the stigma away for the word “Supermom” and give it a brand new meaning. Celebrating “all” of who we are. The good, bad, everything. It will be coming out in 2017. I would love for you to come on the journey with me to end the ongoing fight between us mothers/women and band together for a powerful sisterhood.

  2. Yes! Life is too short to worry so much, can’t we do our best for our families and still find a way to chat, joke, and commiserate!!

  3. We need to stop fighting and some of us need to stop comparing ourselves to others… It only makes it harder on ourselves. Made the mistake of doing that with breastfeeding… Friend pumped forever and had a freezer full of milk. I was convinced I was going to do the same thing. Nope, just didn’t work for me. And I felt guilty as hell about it. Took me a little while to let it go, but then I realized it doesn’t freaking matter! Because, like Catrina said, I’m doing my best!

  4. This is such a brilliant post! Not being a mum myself I can still think of different situations in which all your words make so much sense. There will always be someone ‘better’ or ‘worse’ than we are so trying to be the best version of ourselves is what should make us happy and comfortable with who we are. Then, I strongly believe that instead of fighting we should empower one another, life’s too short to waste energy on negativity

    Mal x

    • Mal, thanks so much for your comment! And it’s awesome to see you think of it beyond parenting! That’s what I was hoping for! 🙂 You’re so right. We’re all just trying to be the best we can be and we all have different ways of going about it. There’s no right or wrong way.

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